Marriage after 6 years
It sent me 6 years back to the day that we officially tied the knot. 17 April 2009.
I smiled to myself, and deep inside I felt a tingle of nostalgia. I let it linger, enjoying the warm feeling that it brought to me, while wondering deeper inside whether we are still the same naive, innocent couple.
I tried to recall how I felt. How he must have felt. The anxiety, the excitement, the uncertainty of marriage that we chose to ignore in good faith.
It was full of bliss.
Six years later, here we are. Alhamdulillah, still going strong.
2 offsprings later we have learned a lot about each other. The good side, the bad side, the hidden side, the new side. In six years it was amazing how there is always something new to discover, and I have a feeling that there would be more.
Being in a marriage, we have made a commitment to adapt. Of course living with someone else 24/7 brings a lot on to the plate - good and bad. The difference with marriage is that you have no choice but to live with it, while remembering close at heart that you too, are nothing near perfect.
That thought helped me a lot. It kept me grounded and reminded me that a marriage is a lifelong work-in-progress.
You can't expect your spouse to turn into someone that you want them to be. You can't mould them into another man/woman that will satisfy all your requirements and live the way you want them to live.
But you can work with each other, and I guess successful marriages lies in this noble commitment, sealed by the sweet, innocent love that you both sowed since the day you tied the knot.
6 years is a very young age in marriage. But I am looking forward to the years ahead, just as anxious and excited as I was when I put on my wedding dress six years ago.
I pray to God for His guidance, His helping hand. I pray the He continues to grant us the strength and wisdom in building a blessed home and family. Most of all, I pray that this happiness and contentment continues long after this short, worldly life.