Just cry when you feel like it.
Would you agree if I say that crying is a good, no, GREAT stress therapy?
Much to me being perceived as an adaptable and strong character and all, I am quite the contrary a sappy and sensitive person.
I cry, and I do not have problems with it.
I cry when I am sad, when I am happy, when I am proud, and when I am angry. I think its the overwhelming surge of emotions that triggers my tearduct, not a specific emotion per se.
I was brought up to think that crying makes me look weak, that crying is actually a form of an exaggeration. So its not surprising during my younger age, I did cry but most of the time I did it privately, and especially not in front of my parents.
I remember being homesick and so miserable when I first entered boarding school. During my Form 1 year, I was admired by most of my friends and seniors by not being the crybaby, when many of my peers were in a homesick phase and crying all the time. Little did they know that I was all the same, sad and scared of being away from my family, and that I do became a crybaby before I go to sleep at night, weeping so silently just to let the emotions flow away.
I called my parents most of the days too (when they were still in Malaysia. Soon after they left for a posting overseas), but because I was too shy and afraid that I was exagerrating, I held back my tears at the end of the line until I finally hung up.
As I grew older I have discovered that holding back tears is painful (literally! If feels like huge pressure in your jaws or something), and the emotions that I held together was really not good to be kept inside me. That was when I decided to throw away the misconception, and that was when I acknowledge that it is after all, OK to cry.
I have to admit though that I still do feel shy, but most of the time I just let it out. Its relieving I tell you, especially when the emotions were already building up. When I am done with my tears, I felt refreshed and ready to accept whatever bad or good things that comes after. I became strong again.
So, yes, to me crying is therapeutic. If you come to me for emotional support, I would encourage you to cry when you feel like it, because it really does helps to clear the mind and brings a balance to the emotional overload.
So how about you, do you cry or most of the time you just hold it back and try not to? When was the last time you cried?
those who aren't able to cry on the other hand are either too arrogant or their soul is too 'evil' to sense any mercy around them. those are the unfortuante ones who may be doomed to Hell because they couldn't recognize the true faith of Islam and love of our God Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta'aala.
Allahu A'lam. Allah knows best.